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Tuesday, February 11, 2014

Your relationship has progressed to the point where you're ready to commit to living together. It's not quite marriage, but close enough, right? And, after all, this is what you've wanted. You can visualize it now, even before it happens: a happy couple watching movies together, enjoying gourmet dinners and spontaneous affection. Well, you get the idea. Ok, now for the reality. Before you take this step, there are 5 items you must consider and discuss; topics that absolutely need to be addressed before you so much as drop a box of your things at his/her apartment (or house). -------------------------------------------------------------------------- [b]Finances[/b] - A tough subject to approach, yet it is imperative that you understand what your financial obligations are. Are you splitting everything equally? Mortgage or rent, food, bills, personal items, and more? At the checkout, do you divide that receipt completely in half? IF you feel that you are overwhelmed with too much of the financial burden, you're on fertile ground for a breeding resentment. [b]Household chores[/b] - You're not moving in so that your partner gets free maid service. Who is going to clean the house? Will chores be shared? What about laundry? Do you each do your own, or is one person going to take care of it? What about doing the dishes after dinner or making the bed and picking up stuff lying around the house? The point is, you should make a list of all household chores and assign it to either you, you partner, or both. Make sure your list includes everything from taking out the garbage to wiping out the cobwebs. You will be so happy you did this. [b]Shopping[/b] - Yes, shopping. It's a huge dent in the timetable of your life, yet it needs to be done. Which of you is going to be responsible for ensuring that the grocery list of items makes it to your cupboards? If your partner doesn't "care" what you purchase at the store, or doesn't care to provide any input as to what goes into his or her mouth, lucky you! Except when that same partner complains that there is "nothing to eat" in the house. This task is something that must be assigned to someone - or both of you! [b]Cooking/Meal Preparation[/b] - This is a biggie. Does your partner just assume that food will magically appear every night? Who is going to prepare meals? Does your partner expect a huge breakfast? Are you going to be expected to make lunches in the morning as you both frantically get ready for work? Or, maybe you will be expected to prepare them the night before so they are ready when you both go to work? What about dinner? What are your partner's expectations? When it's your partner's turn to cook (if you expect to take turns) are you getting a Lean Cuisine fresh from the microwave, but you are expected to put together a five-course dinner? Okay, so maybe you like to cook. But do you like it when it's expected that you do all the cooking? Again, determine what is acceptable for you both. "If I cook, you clean" and on days that "you cook, I clean" and so on. [b]Entertainment/Television[/b] - If you want to watch a Nollywood movie and he has all his mind set on Watching Eden Hazard mesmerize Man City's defence in a football game, you will totally regret not setting down television rules. Most households have a minimum of two televisions and high-speed Internet, so, basically you can go watch whatever you want. Setting out who rules the remote will save you a ton of argument later. Why? Because maybe the location of your other television set isn't as comfortable as the main one. Maybe your other TV is a 30" flat panel, and the main one is a 55" flat panel, Or maybe there's just one TV for you both to share. Sound familiar? -------------------------------------------------------------------------- Moving in together can signify that you are both very committed to your relationship and to making it work. It should be an exciting time and full of new adventures as you both take the next step with each other. Please, don't get so caught up in the fantasy of what it "will be like" without first addressing the realities of life. If you talk about these things before you move in, it saves a lot of frustration, resentment, and unpleasant surprises after you move in! Now go forth and make it a great Day!

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